Hey guys today i shall continue from where i stop the previously time. "How to solve disagreements between both parties in a relationship", you may ask. Sad to say the answer is just to give in, u just need one party to give in a little to the other party and disagreement can be solved.
To be honest, an easy way out to disagreements or conflict is to avoid, avoid in the sense that one party simply agree to what the other party says, this isn't giving in to the other party to be exact, nonetheless this may work in some couples but not all, say in my case, if my girlfriend just agrees to every single shit i say, i might simply flare up, cos i will simply take it as she is not really listening to me, its like u talking to a cow, the cow will do nothing but eat and eat while you talk and talk, how brainless is that...Very brainless. Thats why i hate to avoid problem and i believe some of u guys do too.
So other than avoiding, what else can you do. Be absolutely honest in your point of view works for me though, i may say something not to her liking but i will explain my point of view to her later on and when she understands it, you will be surprised she won't even be angry at you for not agreeing with her on her point. Same goes for her, i will rather she tells me her thoughts about a certain thing and explain to me why she thinks otherwise than she merely agrees with me so as to not have conflict issues surfacing. Honesty is still the best policy i guess. But its very true, she may love u a lot, so much as to stand by u, agrees in whatever u say, thinks u are always right, till one point when her tolerance level drops towards you as time goes by, and that is when she will just start to revoke everything back at you, you will probably be dam sad hearing whatever that comes out of her mouth by then.
So always remember to be honest to her at all times, even at times when u are meeting another girl friend, she maybe jealous upon hearing that, but you got to know that she is jealous cos she cares, and knowing the fact that she will get the wrong massage if u try to hide it from her, cos she will be thinking, if there is really nothing between u and your girl friend, why do u need to hide from her...and u will go err, cos u don't want her to be sad about it, which she will starts to rebut saying do u know u got me even more sad knowing it now?!? and u will probably go err.. and not knowing what to do next, this is when the real problem starts, she will probably shut herself up and cold war starts, the scenario shown by the words in the picture displayed on top will reenact without you knowing, so be honest in the first place, cos its never wrong dude
However there is always cases whereby she sticks to her view firmly even after you try to explain your point of view. This is when you may want to give in a little to her, drawing her out of the situation by smiling followed by saying okok i understand and probably ending it with a warm hug, cos u know she is just being a little more stubborn. She will feel the love in you and will probably stop arguing with you. No disagreement or conflict will surface even when you are honest enough to tell her that you don't exactly agree with what she says; being yourself, this which i believe is the kind of healthy relationship couples should maintain, talk things out man', cos if things were to kept silent, within one 's heart and hiding from the other party, even personal thoughts, then whats the point of being in a relationship, cos you simply never open up to her and she is not there for you. Sometimes trying to avoid the topic so as to not have any conflict isn't going to work, being yourself, tell her your thoughts, then listen to hers, and play by ear, *to be honest the topic isn't going to cost a bomb or something, its just casual and there is no right or wrong answer, rather it just happens to pop out somehow during the conversation between you and her*, so if she is so head strong on her stand, just give it to her a little since u have said what u want to say and she had hear u, so be it. Its as long as you are being yourself and she knows u love her then its alright to give in to her at times.
I shall stop here again, and carry on tonight, do like my post if you think it knock some sense into u, haha don't be shy to click thanks
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
avoiding not equal cure
Hey guys today i shall continue from where i stop the previously time. "How to solve disagreements between both parties in a relationship", you may ask. Sad to say the answer is just to give in, u just need one party to give in a little to the other party and disagreement can be solved.
To be honest, an easy way out to disagreements or conflict is to avoid, avoid in the sense that one party simply agree to what the other party says, this isn't giving in to the other party to be exact, nonetheless this may work in some couples but not all, say in my case, if my girlfriend just agrees to every single shit i say, i might simply flare up, cos i will simply take it as she is not really listening to me, its like u talking to a cow, the cow will do nothing but eat and eat while you talk and talk, how brainless is that...Very brainless. Thats why i hate to avoid problem and i believe some of u guys do too.
So other than avoiding, what else can you do. Be absolutely honest in your point of view works for me though, i may say something not to her liking but i will explain my point of view to her later on and when she understands it, you will be surprised she won't even be angry at you for not agreeing with her on her point. Same goes for her, i will rather she tells me her thoughts about a certain thing and explain to me why she thinks otherwise than she merely agrees with me so as to not have conflict issues surfacing. Honesty is still the best policy i guess. But its very true, she may love u a lot, so much as to stand by u, agrees in whatever u say, thinks u are always right, till one point when her tolerance level drops towards you as time goes by, and that is when she will just start to revoke everything back at you, you will probably be dam sad hearing whatever that comes out of her mouth by then.
So always remember to be honest to her at all times, even at times when u are meeting another girl friend, she maybe jealous upon hearing that, but you got to know that she is jealous cos she cares, and knowing the fact that she will get the wrong massage if u try to hide it from her, cos she will be thinking, if there is really nothing between u and your girl friend, why do u need to hide from her...and u will go err, cos u don't want her to be sad about it, which she will starts to rebut saying do u know u got me even more sad knowing it now?!? and u will probably go err.. and not knowing what to do next, this is when the real problem starts, she will probably shut herself up and cold war starts, the scenario shown by the words in the picture displayed on top will reenact without you knowing, so be honest in the first place, cos its never wrong dude
However there is always cases whereby she sticks to her view firmly even after you try to explain your point of view. This is when you may want to give in a little to her, drawing her out of the situation by smiling followed by saying okok i understand and probably ending it with a warm hug, cos u know she is just being a little more stubborn. She will feel the love in you and will probably stop arguing with you. No disagreement or conflict will surface even when you are honest enough to tell her that you don't exactly agree with what she says; being yourself, this which i believe is the kind of healthy relationship couples should maintain, talk things out man', cos if things were to kept silent, within one 's heart and hiding from the other party, even personal thoughts, then whats the point of being in a relationship, cos you simply never open up to her and she is not there for you. Sometimes trying to avoid the topic so as to not have any conflict isn't going to work, being yourself, tell her your thoughts, then listen to hers, and play by ear, *to be honest the topic isn't going to cost a bomb or something, its just casual and there is no right or wrong answer, rather it just happens to pop out somehow during the conversation between you and her*, so if she is so head strong on her stand, just give it to her a little since u have said what u want to say and she had hear u, so be it. Its as long as you are being yourself and she knows u love her then its alright to give in to her at times.
I shall stop here again, and carry on tonight, do like my post if you think it knock some sense into u, haha don't be shy to click thanks
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